“Addiction is the escape from emotional pain, connection is the cure.” This was expressed by facilitator, Alicia Hoyte, Lead of AFLC’s Mental Health Resource Team at the Building your domestic church, a 3-part series, hosted by the Archdiocesan Family Life Commission (AFLC) on August 21, 28 and September 4.
At each session the prayer Tricia Syms, Episcopal Delegate, used different prayer formats encouraging family prayer and shared on the AFLC’s mission: to proclaim God’s plan for marriage and family life bringing about renewal of family, Church and nation.
This series invited parents to explore the difference between being just a family and becoming a domestic church, living faith intentionally at home by virtue of their baptism. “The liturgy of domestic church life,” she shared, “is about integrating faith into everyday routines so ordinary actions become opportunities for worship.”
The Rites of the Domestic Church
“Choosing the better part” Luke 10:42 resonated with parents at the first session as they explored different ways of interaction with their family members. To help parents manage the emotional ups and downs of parenting, Alicia introduced grounding techniques like the Butterfly Hug, a bilateral tapping exercise that shifts the body from stress to calm. “Parenting is a roller coaster of love and worry,” she said. “These tools help us respond instead of react.”
The first session focused on Christian relationship, the priestly mission of love within the home. Families were reminded that discipleship starts with connection before correction, and that affection, affirmation, and repair after conflict are key to nurturing healthy bonds. PAs one participant shared, “Never forget hugs,” while another pledged to “be more present and attentive.”
The second session turned to Christian rituals, the prophetic call to integrate faith into ordinary acts. Rituals like prayer before meals, family chores, and shared leisure became opportunities for teaching responsibility, joy, and gratitude. St John Bosco’s preventive system was highlighted as a model for discipline rooted in love rather than punishment. Participants reflected on how play and recreation prevent isolation, sharing ideas like family game nights and gratitude practices. “Pause, creating opportunities to build connection,” one parent noted, while another affirmed: “Everything is applicable and user-friendly.”
The final session examined reaching out, the kingly mission of service and witness beyond the home. Families were encouraged to practice cheerful service within the household as preparation for parish and community engagement. Simple acts of kindness, hospitality, and shared service were named as ways to embody the love of Christ. A participant reflected, “Understanding I am not alone in this journey… it’s the simple things that make an even greater impact.” Another added, “Be careful not to let church activities disintegrate the domestic church.”
Feedback and Impact
Across the three sessions, participants valued the practicality and encouragement offered. They shared commitments to prioritise family time, exhibit more affection, and serve with joy. Many testified to feeling supported and renewed in their mission: “There are always opportunities presented to demonstrate the love of Christ to your family and to others.” The interactive format, relatable stories, and group discussions made the experience engaging and impactful.
The AFLC will be hosting another three-part series on Building Your Domestic Church starting Wednesday, September 17th, and continues Wednesday, October 1st and Wednesday October 8th, via Zoom, from 6pm to 8pm. The aim is to continue the mission of accompanying families to live their call as priest, prophet, and king at home and beyond.
For more information on Building Your Domestic Church visit AFLC’s website: aflcrc.org; WhatsApp: 299-1047 or 372-0478 or email aflc.pc@catholictt.org.