A monthly column by the Billings Ovulation Method Association of Trinidad and Tobago (BOMA-TT).
“D Party done.” Now what?
‘What? My girlfriend is pregnant?’
‘I am pregnant and don’t know the father of the child too well?’
What are the options? Hopefully the one that comes to mind immediately is that since I was given a chance to live, I should give this little one a chance too. Every child is a gift from God. Who knows who this child will be? Only God knows and He has a plan for this and every soul. If we but trust in the loving and all-powerful God that we worship, then abortion would cease to exist. Life is precious.
A man whose spine was fractured in an accident and who was left with no sensation or mobility from neck down said this 17 years after the accident: “Although it is difficult to confront it every day, the important thing is to know that I am a son of God and that God loves me and would never give me anything that was bad in itself. If God had had a bad intention in permitting the accident that caused my injury, he would have been cruel, and that is not possible with God. God is always good, and everything that I receive from him is for my good and that of others. And so I look at it as if I had lost a small bill compared with the millions that I have received and continue to receive from him. Perhaps it is that we don’t think much of what we are and are worth in being human: because God has wanted us to be persons. And this greatness of being human, the greatness of being persons, is not a matter of movement. Many animals are many times faster and more agile than we are! But they can neither reason nor love, nor do they have an eternal destiny in heaven” – Fr Luis de Moya.
We human beings can reason, we can love and our destiny is heaven. If we put things in perspective and know that heaven is our true home then giving up one’s time and effort for the life of another (a baby) would only make sense. Jesus said “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (John 15:13). Mother-to-be, father-to-be, please answer this call of Jesus to LOVE! Let this child live and do provide for his or her needs, even if you cannot do it yourself… The Mary Care Centre provides for young pregnant women who have little to no support when it comes to having a child.
Also, many couples who have been trying to conceive for years would be overjoyed to hear of an opportunity to adopt your child!
God’s plan is love, then marriage, then children. It is never too late to turn your life around and start living it the way God intended. Why not rearrange the traditional order of the day to fulfil His plan yet still! Society will tell you education first, then marriage, then children. If the child comes first, why not strive for the others after? Many have done it. Why not you? Challenging and difficult it may be, but in the end it would be worth all your love and sacrifice.
In the same way, practising Natural Family Planning and the Billings Method could be challenging. Knowing that there are times you will be called upon to “wait” for the woman’s fertile phase to end (if you are postponing/avoiding a pregnancy) will challenge men and women. But we know that our Trini men and women are not just animals; they are humans and don’t just act on animal instincts as the animals in mating season do. They have intellect, freedom and will-power that will see them though those times of “waiting”. And that “waiting” will be translated to “loving” as the woman feels respected and she in turn respects the man. God is love; we come from God so we all long for true love. Let us truly “love” one another and not “use” one another’s bodies for selfish pleasure.
Contact BOMA-TT at 384-1659 and email@example.com, or visit www.billingstt.webs.com